The Secure Base and Exploration: Play and social contact with others
If the baby learns to separate without too much fear, you have given it a Secure Base. A baby with a secure base does not have to exhaust itself with fear of separation, crying and clinging, it feels secure. So when you work with children, you should always start with being there and not move too much around. If you stay where you are near the child, the child will become calm and have no fear that you are leaving.
Only if you give the child a secure base, another behaviour system can take over: The Exploration System. So you “turn off” the Attachment System by being calm and present, and then you automatically “turn on” the Exploration System.
A secure child with a caregiver who stays where she is will start moving away from her, play with things, learn, explore the world, be curious, make contact with other children and make little experiments.
This is called exploration behaviour, and it is extremely important for child development. Healthy children only cling to their caregivers for a short while until they feel secure. Then they start playing, exploring, etc. This is the only way they can learn about the world and be motivated for teaching and learning later in life. So, secure children learn a lot more than insecure children who spend their energy trying to avoid separation.
For example, you take a child into a new group of children. At first, it will cling to your leg and cry (attachment behaviour), but if you stay in the same place and remain calm, the child will crawl way from you, play with the toys, and make contact with other children (exploration behaviour). If you get up and walk away, the child will stop exploring and come back and cling to you again to stop you from leaving (attachment behaviour).
QUESTIONS
- Can you remember seeing children cling to you and cry when you leave?
- How do you practice separation – leaving a child or attending to another child?
- How do you stay with the children and give them “A Secure Base” in your work?
- When do you see a child feeling so secure that it crawls away from you and starts playing with other children or with things and toys?
- How can you do the exercises “titty – booh” and “hide and seek” in your daily practice?
- Are there children who do not explore and play, but cling to you all the time? How can you make them feel more secure?
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